“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” -Mahatma Gandhi
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October 28, 2015 | by Jessy Desjardins
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Although still taboo, abuses are a subject which is spoken more openly. Why? Because a third of the women in the world have been, are being or will be abused in their lifetimes. More than 1 million rapes are committed every year in North America, apart from all other types of abuses. By the magnitude of the phenomenon, I dedicate a text on this subject.
I have chosen to write about this topic as a result of a question I received: how can we love and trust the human race after a rape? And how not to turn to rage, resentment, and madness?
My short and concise answer is to simplify and minimize the interpretations. In any case, I wouldn’t want to diminish the experiences of many women, some men, and too many children.
We must first try to conceive that it’s not the person who has committed rape, but the state of unconsciousness he is in.
I do not want to take responsibility away from the people who commit such acts because, in a certain way, their lack of evolution maintained them in this state of unconsciousness. But how can they be aware of what they don’t know?
Like a newborn, still unaware of the pain he can inflict on others by pulling hair or putting a finger in the eyes. Can we really blame him? No, because he ignores the pain he can cause. We can, however, blame ignorance and unconsciousness because they are creators of pain.
If we target our hatred toward the state of unconsciousness instead of directing it at the person, it’s possible to continue loving people who are not “possessed” by this state of total ignorance. In a way, it’s the “compartmentalization” of our hatred.
If we have repressed our hatred and anger since the event, it will be difficult, maybe even impossible to compartmentalize it, since it is too overwhelming. If it’s the case, it must come out and be expressed. If we suppress it, we let ourselves be crushed by guilt. The guilt of not having been able to defend ourselves, to have been submitted and even, the guilt of not knowing the answer to “why me”?
Once compartmentalized, we can express our hatred and our guilt freely. One day, the anger toward unconsciousness will transform itself into a desire for awareness.
This aggression, which at first was a “handicap” and an “obstacle” to our journey, will become a push toward consciousness. This transformation can only take place with an openness to change.
My purpose here is not to trivialize this event that has turned the lives of millions of people upside down, but rather to channel this experience and use it as a tool in our quest for freedom and spiritual evolution.
I have chosen to write about this topic as a result of a question I received: how can we love and trust the human race after a rape? And how not to turn to rage, resentment, and madness?
My short and concise answer is to simplify and minimize the interpretations. In any case, I wouldn’t want to diminish the experiences of many women, some men, and too many children.
We must first try to conceive that it’s not the person who has committed rape, but the state of unconsciousness he is in.
I do not want to take responsibility away from the people who commit such acts because, in a certain way, their lack of evolution maintained them in this state of unconsciousness. But how can they be aware of what they don’t know?
Like a newborn, still unaware of the pain he can inflict on others by pulling hair or putting a finger in the eyes. Can we really blame him? No, because he ignores the pain he can cause. We can, however, blame ignorance and unconsciousness because they are creators of pain.
If we target our hatred toward the state of unconsciousness instead of directing it at the person, it’s possible to continue loving people who are not “possessed” by this state of total ignorance. In a way, it’s the “compartmentalization” of our hatred.
If we have repressed our hatred and anger since the event, it will be difficult, maybe even impossible to compartmentalize it, since it is too overwhelming. If it’s the case, it must come out and be expressed. If we suppress it, we let ourselves be crushed by guilt. The guilt of not having been able to defend ourselves, to have been submitted and even, the guilt of not knowing the answer to “why me”?
Once compartmentalized, we can express our hatred and our guilt freely. One day, the anger toward unconsciousness will transform itself into a desire for awareness.
This aggression, which at first was a “handicap” and an “obstacle” to our journey, will become a push toward consciousness. This transformation can only take place with an openness to change.
My purpose here is not to trivialize this event that has turned the lives of millions of people upside down, but rather to channel this experience and use it as a tool in our quest for freedom and spiritual evolution.
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